Generation-ally

Families share more than just genetics with each
other. We all inherit patterns, or cycles from previous generations. We often do
not even realize some of our deeply ingrained habits stem from family roots. The
one generational torch that all families pass along is life balance issues. This
is so broad that we fail to see the familial ties. Our life balance issues
trickle into many other forms of patterns repeated within the family. Our life
balance ripple effect can perpetuate socioeconomic status, relational
dysfunction, and abusive behaviors. We can be the first generation to stop the
cycle.

 We are products of our environment which is most prevalent in our
socioeconomic status and the effects of it throughout our life. There are some
of us that grew up in poverty. Our family may have told us we are nothing, never
will be able to amount to anything, and should just accept the cards we are
dealt. Our family may have been in poverty, but we were told to work hard, and
make a better life for our self. The individual of the first example will
struggle all their life feeling unworthy, inadequate, and undeserving. This
person will have to heal a broken spirit to find inner strength to achieve a
higher station in life. However, this person will value the lessons learned and
the higher station achieved will not be taken for granted. The person in the
second scenario will appreciate the higher station achieved with fewer obstacles
to have overcome. We do not have to accept our socioeconomic station from our
upbringing and can decide to break the patterns shown to
us.
             
We learn how to interact socially within our family environment first. We
set the foundation of our way of relating in all relationships based on what we
saw within our household growing up. We could have grown up with parents that
were very loving and affectionate, so we strive for harmonious relations in
life. We could have been raised by parents who we never saw interact with each
other, so we accept and deliver a distance within our relations. Conversely, we
could have seen our parents be too affectionate which leads to too little social
appropriate filters and relations later. We tend to repeat the relationship
patterns shown to us at an early age. We are able to break from the relationship
patterns we were shown growing up and create the loving relationships we
desire.
             
Abuse of all kind tends to filter through the generations too. We learn
our behavioral responses from what we have been shown. We could have been shown
one parent disrespect, and degrade the other parent. This creates the cycle to
repeat, first within the same household with the kids treating the one parent in
the same manner as the other parent, and their significant other later. We could
have grown up in a household where emotional, and or psychological terrorism, or
manipulation is used by a tyrant on one, or all members of the family. This sets
a repeating pattern of the abuse witnessed. We could have been raised in a house
where one, or both parents were physically abusive. This produces aggressive,
and explosive offspring that will relive the same dysfunctional habits. The
abuse can stop with us and no longer be cycled through the generations that
follow.
             
Families share dysfunctional patterns, or cycles which get passed down
through the generations. These are able to lessen with each generation, but only
takes one generation to say enough is enough, and end the cycle. We have the
ability to no longer accept previous patterns as our own. We can do the healing
within our life to stop the dysfunction. This healing will be applied not only
to our life, but the lives of our families too. We have the power to heal all;
self, ancestors, family members, loved ones, and society through our new freedom
from patterns and cycles.